In the payment options section of my website, I do not include how much I charge per session. While I understand the cost of therapy can be expensive, I have qualms about publicizing my fee. If I did, it can be found quickly (whether from a search engine, a directory listing or an AI search) and then compared to other therapists, as if my services were being shopped as a vacuum cleaner. What gets diluted in the process of narrowing down therapy to cost is its benefits (some

I have seen this so often or have heard this second-hand both professionally and personally. It goes something like this: Amanda: Whenever we're out with your friends, I feel like you put me down. Gary: Really? Can you give me an example? I usually hear this from Amanda (if she was my client) and then telling me the example she used that eventually turned into an argument. To the Garys out there who respond this way: please don't. This is not about putting you down; she sen

I heard this idea a few weeks ago from a colleague: in your relationship, which one are you?

It costs nothing to give but it can cost everything to receive. It can be sought after in an interaction. It is a measure of satisfaction in a relationship or as a measure of parenting. Validation connects us and the lack of it, disconnects us. The word validate (used since the mid 17th Century) is defined as: check or prove the accuracy of something make or declare legally valid demonstrate or support the truth or value of something recognize or affirm the validity or wo

"Find out who you are and do it on purpose. And do it with purpose. Don't ever sacrifice who you are, your principles and your morals and your values to just try to get ahead in business. It ain't worth it." Here's where I read this. RIP

A new resources page has been added to my webiste.

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When I worked at a group practice, occasionally I would conduct intakes. The main six-page form consisted of questions I would ask in...

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